In life there are a bunch of lessons you must learn. Lessons most people learn from making their own mistakes. And that's good, that's great, I have no issue with it whatsoever. What troubles me is the people. The meddlesome people. And the hypocricy of the fact that incorporating those lessons into your life is only commendable if you've made the mistakes as well.
I'll give you an example: learning to splurge a little time on yourself. If you're working too hard and lead a very stressful life people tell you to slow down, to learn how to pamper yourself. To learn how to say no so you can say yes, and that saying no makes your yeses worth so much more. Makes sense, right? However, if you get to that state of enlightment too soon, without going through all the stress and the pain, then people assume you're lazy or spoiled. That you don't know how hard life can be. Bad, bad you! Go back in line and suffer like all the normal people! Brilliant logic, innit? Don't get me wrong, I'm all for learning from your own mistakes etc, etc. But why are people so keen on robbing/thrashing people of what they have if they think that it wasn't earned enough?